It seems as if the process to protect ourselves and our children are amazingly backwards. The first big step is for a mother to realize a bad situation and protect her children. Getting a divorce after violent tendencies seems like an easy step after abuse, but alas it is not. Many emotions are tied into a family, and who doesn't want to give the situation "one last chance." What spouse WANTS to get a restraining order...what a hard way to watch a relationship deteriorate. Sometimes an event or a "trigger" may push someone who is living day to day life barely on sanity's edge to make a bad choice which may be the cummulation of many events.Or maybe even worsened by a mental health issue. This wife probably felt she had no choice but to leave...I'm sure the children have seen more than they elude to...and the result is EVERYONES loss. The loss of a LIFE...the best gift of all. When do you step in and intervene? When do you give up? Families are presented with these awful questions every single day...and oh my the guilt. What could i have done to help him get his mind right? What signs should we have seen? It is not easy to be a survivor of a tradgedy...It is NOT easy to have loved and lost. These children have a night from hell imprinted on their young minds, least we all not forget the change that their lives may take because of this. You cannot judge...you cannot judge.

Would like to know how many times this person was shot by the police officers. Does anyone know? I am saddened after reading some of the comments posted here on the board. The realization is that these children lost their Father, possibly their Grandmother, the wife lost a long time spouse (even if they were in the divorce process). It is also Christmas and the holidays are ruined for these poor children and all of the families involved. They will all always remember the heartache at this time of year - year after year. Sad - Sad - Sad. Have compassion here everyone - Please.