"Overprogramming" vs. pure freedom

By BRENDA SCHULTZ   Friday, June 24, 2011 - 6:30 a.m.

I love summer. Some of my favorite memories are of chasing and capturing fire flies, playing on the swing set until it got too dark to see, running barefoot all day, going as high as possible on the tire swing, and, in general, going full throttle and getting plenty of exercise. I also loved to lie on a reclining lawn chair and gaze up at the clouds and daydream. Summer was all about freedom and play, and I want it to be that way for my daughter, too. She is so interested in everything, though-- primarily music, science, and dance, that it’s tempting to sign up for many different classes—and she’s only on the verge of turning 4! Our budget won’t allow us to sign her up for everything, of course, and if she didn’t maintain an interest in something, we wouldn’t continue, but….

She takes violin, and loves it. She’s beginning to take piano lessons, and I definitely see ballet in our near future. These are all wonderful things, but one shouldn’t succumb to the temptation of “over-programming”. I well remember a time when I took acrobats, tap dancing, Girl Scouts, piano, and swim—all at the same time! At age 9, I finally told my mom that it was just too much, and so we backed off some of this.

Every parent wants their child to become acquainted with different activities to learn their talents and perhaps develop those further, and I’m thankful for the availability of short-term sessions like soccer and swim lessons; just a taste of it, to see if she has an affinity or talent for them. But I find that I have to evaluate, and re-evaluate again as I ponder all that’s available to children nowadays against the wonderful memories I have of the pure, plain freedom of childhood.

How do you choose, and limit the extra activities for your child? What are your favorite memories of summer?

Brenda Schultz lives in Milton. She is a stay at home mom of a 3-year-old, formerly a public school teacher. She cares for other children part-time, and teaches beginning piano. Brenda is a community blogger and is not a part of The Gazette staff. Her opinion is not necessarily that of the The Gazette staff or management.

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JohnWicket
Jun 25, 2011 at 8:55 p.m.
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At one time in modern history Albert Einstein wrote mathematician Jacques Hadamard about the importance of creativity and engaging youngsters, and the not-so-young, in "combinatory play". Perhaps, if one wishes to release the inner genius in their children one should let them engage in more play. Why do we feel the need to stymie and steal away children's creative moments only to replace it with adult-inflicted tedium? Rock on Kids!

oldtimer
Jun 25, 2011 at 3:12 p.m.
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Right on, overprogramming, parents are putting their kids into way to much, our 11 year neighbor girl is going night and day, she is into track and told her father more that once her chest hurts. He does not have a cluek.

babaloo1
Jun 24, 2011 at 1:39 p.m.
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My grandaughters are scheduled to forever... Mom has them in dance 2-3x a week, basketball, softball, club softball,church, vacation bible school, basketball camp, dance camp, competition dance, etc, etc... I feel bad for them as they don't have anytime to be themselves or spend time with family. They are wonderful kids but they will be so burned out by the time they hit high school they won't want to be in anything ever again.

dg468
Jun 24, 2011 at 1:19 p.m.
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I think it's important for kids to learn to entertain themselves and to gain a sense of independence and self-reliance. Those are some of the skills I learned roaming around free during the summers as a kid. It developed in me a natural sense of adventure and exploration that has made my adult life a whole lot more interesting. Kids whose lives are completely scheduled don't seem to know what to do when they are faced with free time or time to themselves.

bella
Jun 24, 2011 at 1:07 p.m.
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Your blog is very timely and I agree with you one hundred percent. Overbooking our children doesn't allow them time to just "be". That's exactly what summers used to be all about, endless days of roaming around with friends, playing, exploring...stopping by the house for a sandwich & fruit to go before continuing the adventures. It was great! I want my daughter to have it the same way. She can take a class here and there if she wants to, but we'll limit the structure to match the school year. Summer is a time to recharge, grow and explore!

AKron
Jun 24, 2011 at 9:20 a.m.
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The violin is a beautiful instrument to play. I had the good fortune of listening to Tony S., a student at St. Mary's school, play his violin at the Janesville Farmers Market last Saturday.
Here's the video:
http://a-kron.blogspot.com/search/label/...

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