On Sexual predators are often mom’s boyfriend
Posted on August 19 at 3:57 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Unfortunately this kind of situation happens much more often than anyone realizes. Several years ago I met a man, dated him for over a year, married him and later discovered he'd been molesting my 7 year old daughter while I worked. The abuse went on for almost 2 years before I found out about it.
When I did find out, I took her immediately to the hospital and reported it to the police. I had to send my daughter to stay with her biological father for 2 weeks so that I could get my husband out of the house, the police were investigating so didn't make an immediate arrest eventhough my daughter and I fully cooperated with their questioning. I then got both her and myself into counseling so that I would be better able to help her deal with the trauma and because I was feeling so helpless, guilty, angry and depressed myself. Eventually the police requested him to appear for an interview and he was arrested and released the same day.
He took a plea bargain and pled no contest which was good in that my daughter didn't have to testify during a trial, however, the plea bargain allowed him to get off with just 6 months in the county jail with work release priviledges! He was convicted of only 1 count of Sexual Battery on a child, eventhough this had been going on for almost 2 years!
The thought of taking him back into my life was the absolute furthest thing from my mind, in fact I moved my family so that we wouldn't have to remain in a house filled with those memories. My daughter is now a grown woman, married and with a year old daughter of her own. She and I are closer than we ever were, but I still have lingering anger and the unanswered question 'Why???'
But what really amazes me is that this story gets front page, with my ex-husband it rated no more than 2 or 3 lines in the local section telling that he'd been arrested. And while he is permanently on the Sex Offender Registry, he continues to live and work in Janesville as if nothing happened. Last I heard he was re-married to a woman with young children! In my opinion, justice was NOT served in my case, at least this one will be off the streets, unlike my ex and many others.
Page 1 of 1
On Sex offender sentenced to 10 years in prison
Posted on August 26 at 2:12 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
I posted this in another comment for a story earlier this week, but the same is true here...
Unfortunately this kind of situation happens much more often than anyone realizes. Several years ago I met a man, dated him for over a year, married him and later discovered he'd been molesting my 7 year old daughter while I worked. The abuse went on for almost 2 years before I found out about it.
When I did find out, I took her immediately to the hospital and reported it to the police. I had to send my daughter to stay with her biological father for 2 weeks so that I could get my husband out of the house, the police were investigating so didn't make an immediate arrest eventhough my daughter and I fully cooperated with their questioning. I then got both her and myself into counseling so that I would be better able to help her deal with the trauma and because I was feeling so helpless, guilty, angry and depressed myself. Eventually the police requested him to appear for an interview and he was arrested and released the same day.
He took a plea bargain and pled no contest which was good in that my daughter didn't have to testify during a trial, however, the plea bargain allowed him to get off with just 6 months in the county jail with work release priviledges! He was convicted of only 1 count of 2nd Degree Sexual Assault of a child, eventhough this had been going on for almost 2 years! And no there was no restitution for the counseling, I paid for that through my insurance and out of my own pocket.
The thought of taking him back into my life was the absolute furthest thing from my mind, in fact I moved my family so that we wouldn't have to remain in a house filled with those memories. My daughter is now a grown woman, married and with a year old daughter of her own. She and I are closer than we ever were, but I still have lingering anger and the unanswered question 'Why???'
But what really amazes me is that this story gets a whole write-up, with my ex-husband it rated no more than 2 or 3 lines in the local section telling that he'd been arrested. And while he is permanently on the Sex Offender Registry, he continues to live and work in Janesville as if nothing happened. Last I heard he was re-married to a woman with young children! In my opinion, justice was NOT served in my case, at least this one will be off the streets, unlike my ex and many others.