On Domestic tragedy stuns neighbors
Posted on September 2 at 6:09 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Bravo mymaro! U did ur homework. The "Kanun" of Leke Dukagjini is a code of principles set forth in the 15th century by Prince Leke of Albania. At that time, many cultures had different codes they followed such as honor killings, blood feuds,etc. These rules have evolved over time as have other cultural behaviors. There are some cultures that still practice honor killings as I'm sure u have seen in the media, but as an Albanian, I do not know of any Albanians that do. It is a dead topic & highly frowned upon when heard of happening in any culture. But that's not the issue here, and to clarify, optimism didn't call it an honor killing, rather what he said was that "this type of stuff happens all the time over there" - is just absurd! This type of stuff? Murder-Suicide? How many of those do u hear about being comitted by other US residents? Just because you can pronounce THEIR names it's ok to call it murder-suicide? But if it's a foriegn name it has to be associated w/honor killings or other cultural behaviors you read or hear about? How do u know it happens over there all the time? Have u ever been there? or lived there? U are just ASSUMING. Don't ASSUME & don't pick on ppl that are not here to defend themselves. This was a domestic dispute gone bad in America, one of the nations with the highest crime rates. U don't know what was going on within that family. All I can say is it's very sad that this had to happen & the husband didn't seek help prior. There are 5 children out there who need our support and prayers, not to read about us arguing about codes that were set in 15th Century Albania. If u want to know more about Albanian cultures ask an Albanian person and get ur facts straight.
On Domestic tragedy stuns neighbors
Posted on September 2 at 1 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Optimism, plz get ur facts straight before u post next time. I'm afraid ur confusing "Albanian" with "Arabian", this is not an honor killing. This was unfortunately a murder-suicide as a result of a domestic dispute gone awry, which happens quite a bit in the US if you paid attention to the media as JohnDoe suggested. I am Albanian & murder-suicide is not something that is "accepted" or happens often in the Albanian society. Where do u get ur info? Regardless, educate urself before u go around accusing ppl. I know this family, they came here sponsored by the US during the Kosovo-Serbian war approx 10 yrs ago, so they ARE here legally & may very well have become US citizens because u only have to be here 5 yrs to do so. This family went through a lot in that war & this man was very traumatized, too bad he did not get the help he needed to move past that. Kudos to Janesvillean for doing their homework & being familiar w/war trauma, etc. So don't be so quick to judge ppl & cultures because the US is full of all sorts of crimes being committed daily. So which country or culture do u wanna blame ppl killing their innocent little children or child molestation/abductions on???? My point is don't "assume" things because as the old saying goes . . . u make an a.. out of u & me. Every country has crimes. My heart goes out to the "victims" of this tragedgy, the children. May time heal their sorrow & give them strength to move on.
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On Domestic tragedy stuns neighbors
Posted on September 3 at 11:41 a.m. ( Suggest removal )
Thank you cgkm... for ur comment u are exactly right. Reading about Albanian cultures & living in it are 2 different things. U can read about it all u want, some are factual & some are fiction. Like in any culture, there are some ppl out there still practicing primitive behavior. There are Albanians all over the world and the culture has evolved quite a bit since the 15th century as most cultures have but u can't educate ppl who think they know everything about a culture by reading something. There was another murder-suicide in Edgerton not too long ago & not such a big deal was made about that incident. My point was just because they have foreign names, some ppl here were so quick to judge why this unfortunate incident happened based purely on what they have read about their culture. Don't ASSUME!!!! This is another tragedy in America. So sad. God Bless those that have set up the fund to help the children.