Ruby Project focuses on at-risk youth

By SHELLY BIRKELO ( Contact )   Monday, Jan. 23, 2012
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The next meeting of The Ruby Project is 1-3 p.m. Sunday, March 11, at Basics Cooperative, 1171 Lodge Drive, Janesville.

More information about The Ruby Project is available by contacting Kelley Ostermann at kelley@therubyproject.us, by going online to TheRubyProject.us or to facebook.com/rubyproje.

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Kelley Ostermann next to the Ruby Project Van

Kelley Ostermann next to the Ruby Project Van

— Bullies targeted the tall, overweight teenage girl who was living with a foster family.

“Classmates called her a bitch, fat and stupid and picked on her friends,” the 13-year-old’s foster mother said.

The cruelty made the teen fight back, the foster mother said.

She worked with her husband and foster care team to help the girl find other ways to stand up and defend herself without hurting others, but the teen needed more help than they could offer.

That’s why Kelley Ostermann in May announced the creation of The Ruby Project.

“Our official stance serves to educate and empower the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning and allied youth community through supports and services. Our focus is at-risk youth, but we extend services to any and all in need,” she said.

Ostermann and her husband, Adam, have been foster parents for 50 children and came to realize the community needs something like The Ruby Project, she said.

“With the amount of kids we’ve had starting to identify or question where they fall on the sexual spectrum, we’ve really struggled to find resources for them. You really need to go to Madison, Milwaukee, Chicago or Rockford to find a LGBT organization,” she said.

Ostermann sought input from the community and networked with other outreach programs, such as the Sexual Assault Recovery Program and the AIDS Network.

Ostermann emailed Janesville School District employees to find out about LGBT services in place for middle school students, and she asked what the Ruby Project could do to help.

Within two days, Ostermann received dozens of written responses. One staff person admitted the school district needs something like The Ruby Project. Others shared ideas Ostermann found encouraging, she said.

Getting established

Ostermann hopes The Ruby Project will be allowed access in the Janesville School District after getting full 501(c)(3) non-profit status this summer.

At a Jan. 8 meeting, The Ruby Project elected officers: Ostermann, president; Jenna Roman, Janesville, vice president; Bryn Golden, Janesville, secretary; and Kathie Long, Milton, treasurer.

During the meeting, they decided The Ruby Project will continue fundraising efforts for the AIDS Network, Sexual Assault Recovery Program and Project 16:49.

Plans were made to:

-- Work with Seniors in the Park, Whitewater, to establish a Gay and Gray group meeting.

-- Start a euchre game night at Club Impulse in Beloit.

-- Coordinate a social group for LGBTQ parents of small children in Edgerton and eventually introduce a sister program in Janesville.

-- Present educational workshops on topics such as bullying and LGBTQ family legal rights.

Goals

“We want this to be community-driven and provide what the community needs,” Ostermann said.

What sets The Ruby Project apart, Ostermann said, is its focus on youth and the elderly—two sectors of the community often forgotten.

“You can’t have enough support for kids,’’ she said.

“Some kids haven’t come out, but being perceived as gay or lesbian has been enough to make their lives a living hell,” Ostermann said.

“We’re just run-of-the-mill people who have had enough seeing kids suffer needlessly,’’ she said.

“The community is only as strong as its members, and we really want to be strong in the community, empower and educate. I don’t want anybody to feel we’re trying to convert someone to being gay, lesbian or transgender. It’s not a choice. We just want to be a support.”

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fearandrhetoric4dummies
Jan 26, 2012 at 9:31 p.m.
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Jvlmomof6- Who are you to judge anyone? Stop your bible thumping here, makes you look crazy. Maybe you should read a little more about the teachings of Jesus Christ before you apply the old testament to everything and cast judgement on others, THAT is what is critical here.
The bible is NOT the word of God it is a book written by MEN. A book with nice stories of Morality and lessons to live by, but many troubling stories of slavery, adultery, polygamy, and MUCH worse. Look into how the holy Bible was compiled , a group of priests and "Holy men" chose what was to be included and left out in the 1500's. Many goospels of Jesus left out.
Over the centuries Priests have sexually abused young men/boys, millons of people have been killed in the name of God, ever heard of the crusades? So please stop damning people and look in the mirror. Keep your simple minded insanity to yourself, thank you, and may God bless you.

dangerboi
Jan 26, 2012 at 8:57 p.m.
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While I applaud someone taking up for the youth and trying to find a safe space for such individuals, I do have a problem when the group itself is promoting itself for something it is not .
Since its inception this group has done nothing. No programming to speak of, no events, just a bunch of signs and banners and a tshirt that is basically a battering ram than an open hand. You want to reach people, you don't make them madder.
The leader of said group also goes around to businesses trying to solicit funds and when asked what the funds will be going to exactly, all they say is the organization, but not how.
To top that off if you do double check on their Facebook page, a profile page mind you, not a business page, you see them taking a clear political side over another. As a 501(c)(3), these individuals cannot be doing political activities of any kind and clearly have.
The page lacks any kind of professionalism and I would hate my child to see it. Not because of the LGBT, but because of how crude the language can be and how inappropriate it is for an organization such as this.
A 501(c)(3) run out of a home with children? Look below to see comments of such hatred and intensity...are her foster children even safe? Put a big ol sign on your front lawn and you are not helping a cause, you are making yourself a target for bigots who have no care about the children...It's one thing to be the Malcolm X to say Martin Luther King, its another to put your own family in danger, especially those who you were entrusted to care for.
Speaking of which just how are they funding this? With over 50 foster children one has to think where that money is coming from? the money she uses to take care of her foster children? I would seriously like to wonder where the money does come from and how it is spent exactly.
The individual who is starting this also has no credentials that say she can run an organization like this! At risk youth in the hands of someone who has no formal training or schooling in dealing with such an issue? Are they going to be in more danger soliciting advice from someone who lacks the ability to give grounded advice or someone who swears and acts like more of a friend than a program coordinator in charge.
While I identify as gay myself, I have seen so far what they have been doing, and while I admire their ability to be so public, I worry just how much danger they are causing to the youth and LGBT citizens by their lack of organization, ability to program, lack of professionalism, and lack of tact just in general.
I know this paper is trying to give a platform for groups that strive for equal rights, and have a positive spin on this article, but seriously, please check your facts on these individuals and see how credible their credentials and abilities to carry such things out are.
I have experienced these individuals, you have no idea how harmful they are going to be to the LGBT community here in Rock County than helpful.

Manners
Jan 24, 2012 at 8:27 p.m.
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Jvlmomof6 Stop breeding!! We don't need anymore people like you.

luvujvl
Jan 24, 2012 at 3:49 p.m.
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Oh - I guess I've been wrong all these years. I thought living a Christian lifestyle meant treating others as you would have them treat you; respecting and loving other people; helping those less fortunate than yourself; giving your time, talent, and treasure for the greater good; extending a hand of friendship to everyone; and I thought there was also something written about not standing in judgment of other people. Oops.... my mistake. <end sarcasm font>

shorty7187
Jan 24, 2012 at 3:36 p.m.
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jvlmomof6:

I think I'd rather go to hell and be surrounded by the: "fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, effeminate, homosexuals, thieves, covetous, drunkards, revilers and swindlers" (as you say) than to go to heaven and be among people (like yourself) who say self-righteous, judgmental, hateful, intolerant, and very rude things about others.

Who are you to condemn other people to hell? Save your prayers- no one needs or wants them when they come from such a dark and angry place.

jvlmomof6
Jan 24, 2012 at 2:11 p.m.
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You're not being nice to homosexuals to call it an optional life style, a sexual preference. You're not nice to them to do that. That isn't kind. That isn't thoughtful. That isn't loving. That is damning. The kindest thing you could ever say to someone engaged in homosexual sin is it is a sin that will damn you and it will exclude you from the Kingdom of God forever. That's the kindest thing you can say. A proper diagnosis is absolutely crucial. This is not a preferred sexual orientation. This is not an alternate lifestyle. This is not a genetic thing. This is sin and perversion that damns men's and women's souls. The massive movement to appease the guilt and to release lust unchecked, to free up homosexuals to live any way they want and to feel good about it by defining their blasphemous sexual conduct is nothing more than an alternative lifestyle is a damning thing. Those who advocate homosexual rights will have the blood of dead homosexuals on their hands. Homosexuality is an insatiable lust. It is a drive that goes beyond anything that heterosexual people experience. And these people are not only trying to justify their own lust, their unchecked, unbridled, insatiable desires but they are trying to sell it to everybody else because then that becomes even a greater justification the more they can normalize it. And so they're selling it to your children. The unrighteous who don't inherit God's Kingdom are characterized as fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, effeminate, homosexuals, thieves, covetous, drunkards, revilers and swindlers. Those are the kind of people who do not go into God's Kingdom, so if you're one of those kinds of people, you don't go into God's Kingdom...that's the bad news. Those kind of people can be washed. Those kind of people can be sanctified. And those kind of people can be justified. And they have been and they are being so that he could say to the Corinthian church, "Such were some of you." You used to be fornicators, and idolaters, and adulterers, and effeminate, and homosexuals. You used to be thieves, and coveters, and drunkards, and revilers, and swindlers, but you aren't anymore because you've been washed from those sins and you've been sanctified and you have been justified. That's good news.

I'm here to say this, primarily that God has good news for homosexuals. They are redeemable. They can be saved. They can be delivered from that sin. They can be washed from its stains. They can be set on a road of godly, holy, pure living called sanctification.

factsplease
Jan 24, 2012 at 2:10 p.m.
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I like everything about this project, BUT I still find some of the t-shirts offensive.

JoyM
Jan 24, 2012 at 1:42 p.m.
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Oh, and jvlmomof6 - I hope none of your children is gay because apparently you would not love them anymore. Not sure about yours, but my God created all in his own image, and therefore all humans are worthy of love just as they are. And by the way, if any of your children are gay, they came directly out of you that way because that's wiring from conception, so think about that.

JoyM
Jan 24, 2012 at 1:36 p.m.
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OK, I am a little lost here. So the girl was tall and overweight and called names by bullies. I am not understanding where this segues into a LGBTQ article? I was a tall and overweight girl who got called names by bullies, too, but I am not gay and never got called that. I would not have sought support from this kind of group just because I was an outcast. I had friends of my own (as apparently this girl did). So, did the Gazette leave out part of the circumstances around the bullying of this girl? Or is it just that since Osterman could help with one kind of bullying, she believes she can help with another? Sorry, just a little lost here.

JasonTh
Jan 24, 2012 at 1:23 p.m.
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Jvlmomof6, you are the typical person I would expect to oppose any sort of assistance project in this city. You'd rather a confused and distraught teen be humiliated and ostracized than be accept into a group of her own peers, to allow her to find herself and the good in other people. The bible isn't showing people who are LGBTQ morals; it, and those like you who preach it, are showing them hatred and that they are sinners, and treating them like outcasts.

I guess my acceptance of different religions, sexual orientations, and beliefs equate me to a "disgrace to the human race"... but your opinion matters very little to me, I feel it's the right way to be.

“I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians. They are so unlike your Christ.” Gandhi

partarican1
Jan 24, 2012 at 1:20 p.m.
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jvlmomof6:let those without sin cast the first stone...sound familiar? These kids are not sinners, they are humans who are normal and gay or bi or transgender or whatever. Did you know that some people are even born with both sexes? And it's more common than you think...it is people like you who promulgate fear and hatred towards your fellow man or woman that make life more difficult...and thanks for showing your true colors today :)

jvlmomof6
Jan 24, 2012 at 12:56 p.m.
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Oh my, where have our morals gone? I urge everyone to take a look at the T-Shirts this 'organization' is selling on their website. Thanks for suggesting that 'ImJustSayin' Those who support this organization should hang your heads in shame, all you are doing is confusing these children even more and encouraging sin. I suppose a child that likes the taste of liquor should be encouraged to drink it as well? They enjoy lying and we should encourage them to continue? These kids need a lesson in morals and should all be handed the Bible, not an acceptance club to back up wrongful ways. You are all a disgrace to the human race and a prime reason as to why there are so many troubled youth in society. Thank you Gazette for informing me of those I need to keep my children from.

doglover
Jan 23, 2012 at 9:09 p.m.
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Just curious, but when they chose this name, did they realize there was a local organization called the Ruby Violet Project? I believe that the organization for battered women is still going. I hope that there won't be any confusion between the two names.

JvlBorn
Jan 23, 2012 at 6:53 p.m.
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Kudos to all involved in this much-needed organization! Best wishes to you in your endeavor!

ImJustSayin
Jan 23, 2012 at 6:03 p.m.
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I wonder if any of the schools they will be going into will let kids wear the T shirts The Ruby Project has for sale on their website.
I'm just wonderin'...

commonsenseprevails
Jan 23, 2012 at 5:39 p.m.
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Best of luck with the project Kelley. It sounds like a great idea.

HillPeople
Jan 23, 2012 at 4:31 p.m.
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Kudos to this couple for looking out for these kids. What soul!

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