I think this blog needs to end - it has gotten totally out of hand. Wasn't this supposed to be about a person leaving their child at the police station? Kudos to whoever did that too! I find the blogging here quite interesting - heck I would even pay to keep reading all you guys' posts! Makes my day!

Jeebus christmas, can't you people READ? I said Dr BERRY was nationally revered- as in he has been published in behavioral neuroscience journals, has a great research team, and is invited to speak on the subject of early trauma to public service agencies and universities alike.

As for moving out of state:
People CAN relocate to second residences for a brief period, and return. Especialy when real estate investmemnt is a god draw for some portfolio building.
Gay men can have children, too, just not biological.

Doesn't that PD rent a room in some guy's house?

oh my before the police come to get me I meant building not builing

my comment is to A: encourage the biological mother to continue to do the "next right thing" and B: give the biological mother a bit of hope that her future and the future of her baby may now be brighter. Good day! :)

gfan- i think evansville police is in a tiny builing by itself on hyw 14 about 600 sq ft.i saw A police car outside of it once.

"Bloggers have an identity."

maybe one they created
brad paisley song online ring a bell

Maybe the Gazette should take the article and comments off of here since it has gotten so far off the original article.

Good catches, callit.....

What was interesting about her "departure" was that it was somehow suppose to prevent her from continuing to post here. As if the internet only covered the Janesville-Evansville area.

It may have been a matter of being in a place where computer privileges can be revoked or not permitted!

Evansvillehouswife-Who can believe anything you say. Last year it was "I am relocating to another state, goodbye" You disappeared from the site for a few months but are now back and you still refer to living in Evansville. "I have no children" but at one time your son was taking up skating with your husband who skates. If you are constantly lying at least write them down and be consistent.

Yes,lakennedy. evansvillehousewife seems to be saying that she's a "nationwide revered child psychologist." Uh!?

All the fighting going on WOW, the point of the article is simple this young woman did a very brave and I am sure very scary decision she should be commended. As for all your other arguments maybe, you guys could start your own web site for angry posters.

I apologize for being off topic here, but I have a few questions.
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1st: How does someone become "nationally revered?" What's the process involved? I mean besides dubbing yourself to be so...which evansville housewife feels quite confident doing.
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And two, who, exactly feels it necessary to write that about themselves? Whatever credibility you had was just lost in my book...

e-wife, you're the one who just brought it back. And you falsely accused someone of being a stalker on this blog. You are erratic and irrational.

Um, I'm lost as to what you are referring to, and since this happened to ME, not you, it;s a little freaky that you've spent so much time dwelling on it. Move on.

Isn't that police station in the same building with the Radio Shack?

e-wife, are you saying that the "false" stalking accusation against you is unrelated to your false stalking accusation against someone else?

giving the police dept address...thats pretty funny:)

gazettefan incorrectly assumed:e-wife, it was a blogger who knows who you are.

Nope. First off, the people who comment aren't "bloggers". They are anonymous commenters, Bloggers have an identity.

Second, the "stalking" incident you are thinking of was a woman who used her real name as a username, and was sending me particularly nasty threatening emails- property damage and following my kids (which i don't even have, and I have said that MANY times here!). With her name(which she gave out freely), it was easy to locate her records on WCCA, see where she lived, and look up Rock county tax records that had a pic of her house. i told her to clean up her yard (it was a mess) and she flipped out and said I was driving past, etc, when in reality I've never even driven in that area of janesville and never will.
She did, however, stop threatening me.

She asked my address and I obligingly gave her the address of the Evansville police Dept. She didn't like that too much. That is the 'Evansville drive by" incident you think you know so much about, when nothing actually occurred in the first place.

thanx hannah. yer alright;) but i AM the typical pothead. the typical pothead is NOT the ones you read about in the papers doin stupid things. other than the fact that the typical pothead doesnt tell everyone they know what they do:) but trust me...theres lots of silent me's out there:)

sorry evansvillesportsfan- i miss read i thought it was evansvillehousewife posting.

evillhswife-"I think all of you bloggers who are fighting with each other and saying cruel things should be ashamed of yourselves!! This story is not about you"

wow did you forget what you just wrote about kid???????

evillehswfe-"He's just a lazy blob in denial."

werent you just speaking of liebel????????

that was rude!!!!!!
bty- if you really read what he writes he isnt the typical icon for pot smoking. he seems to have his stuff together and DOESNT seem lazy.

;~(

Great blog evansvillesportsfan. That pretty much says it all...

It's really sad that some of you have gotten so way off topic and are fighting amongst your self. This had been a wonderful story, she is a wonderful woman to have done this. But some of you feel the need to make it all about you. If I had not known better I would have thought the Junior High had gotten out early for the day and converged on this site.

I absolutely agree with you. But at what point is it okay to stand up for someone you feel is being mistreated?

I think all of you bloggers who are fighting with each other and saying cruel things should be ashamed of yourselves!! This story is not about you. It is about a woman who unselfishly turned over her baby to authorities so he/she could have a better life. We do not know her circumstances so just be respectful of the situation. If you all have so much time on your hands why don't you spend it wisely by perhaps learning to spell, to have better grammar and better typing.

lazy blob in denial?? thats not slander?? so if i have extra resources its ok to smoke pot?? i pay a GOOD chunk in child support, never been late AND have physical custody of my kids 50% of the time. how many dads do you know that have totally uprooted their lives to be next to their kids?? anyone help put food in my fridge?? lazy blob in denial?? please i am as motivated of an individual as you will find...i just happen to smoke a lot of pot so you cant grasp that. and i dont need to go into detail...yer too not intelligent to understand...but i am waaaaay more of a medical marijuana smoker than you could even process.

e-wife, it was a blogger who knows who you are.

Re: you and children: You come off like Joan Crawford going psychotic with her kid about the wire coat hangers.

Learn some manners.

...vomiting? nope, feeling quite well.

Not a falsehood because I used the word probably. Every single single, young, unwed mother I know that gave up a child sited as one of the many reasons that they didn't want to be on welfare. My experience

did I scribble? I typed, liar. But you did call me a genius, which is true, so I'll let you slide. You must know thekid well, calling him an 'unmotivated blob' which I believe is also lible, no? Wow, play nice

Please change the word 'called' to 'implyed.' You implyed that beind a pot advocate meant you are a pot smoker.

"As if drug use has any affect on employability." I know for a fact there are many functioning alcoholics and users of drugs, both legal and illegal, occasionally and habitually, in MANY lines of work. Electrician, physician, chiropractor, contractor, computer engineer, architect, etc. to name a few I personally know. Yes, it is sad that so many in our society turn to this as a way to escape. Your twisted logic brought up bus drivers being high. I just pointed out that many people in this country, and others I'm sure, are functioning, working members of society. I'm sorry if that shatters your idea of what a 'drug user' is supposed to be, but that's your issue.

Join CASA, be useful... hmm so I'm not useful? to whom, you? Ouch, that hurts. Why? Because I don't turn a blind eye and let you bash people? Possibly you need to spend less time advocating for others and more time on yourself. It would appear you have a rage issue, or at least a CAPS issue

gazettefan made upa fairy tale and tapped:a blogger on this website said e-wife was seen stalking someone in e-ville. I defended e-wife back then saying: E-ville is a small town and maybe driving past someone's house repeatedly was just a coincidence.

Well, since NO ONE KNOWS MY NAME,SEX,OR OCCUPATION, WHAT I LOOK LIKE, or even if I OWN A CAR OR LIVE IN EVANSVILLE; this kind of rumor is the type of thing I'd expect a monkey to type at random.
Laughingly, the name "evansvillehousewife" has nailed me more judgement than anything, and it's a laugh, since I'm nothing of the sort.
I'm a gay man from Edgerton.

Banyan vomits another falsehood:Ironically, it's probably this type of judgment that leads many young, unwed mothers to abandon their babies.

Actually, the number of young, unwed mothers has INCREASED since the 1950's. The social stigma is almost nil, and less than 8% of teenage mothers (which are mostly college aged white girls) give upp their baby for adoption. THe fact is, (three books you can read on this: One in Ten: Young, Poor, and Pregnant; the Psychology of Teenage Motherhood; and Promises I can Keep: Why poor women put motherhood before marriage.

wow.... Ummm, kudos to this mother for making the best decision for this child.

e-wife, You're right they are none of my business. However I'll quote back to you "I have seen way too many horrific cases of abuse and incest-" from your post below. Implying that many pregnant women/teens are from rape and incest and not simple mistake.

Likewise, I'm sure that there are no credentials. While you like to make it sound like you have all the answers, you still insult and judge people.

Everyone has their opinion. I can respect that opinion and disagree without having to attack the person. I'd be nice if EVERYONE could do the same.

banyan the genius said:As if drug use has any affect on employability.

Right.... alcohol is a drug. Drug use is OK for employability. Therefore, by banyan's stellar logic, alcoholics are fine bus drivers.

Are you just talking occasional pot use, medical pot use, or all illegal and prescribed drugs? Because there's a couple overdose victims I know that could refute your claim that being a drug addict and holding down a job go well together.

banyan scribbled:You, like e-wife, just called every person living in states on the Pacific Coast 'a pot smoker,' because all three states have medical marijuana laws, along with 11 other states.

Show me where I did this. Liar.

tj24, my credentials are one of your business. Believe it or don't- I could be a judge, foster parent, or CPS lawyer for all you know. It's an internet COMMENT SECTION, ferchrisakes.

There was NEVER a mass implication of rape/incest victims being the sole users of the safe haven law. I simply brought up the possibility because in this society, women are the first to take the fall in a child abuse case, and I wanted to make a point the mom may well be a victim. You refuted the point, saying that "does anyone believe there are all these raped pregnant women around?" They are a minority of pregnant women, but they exist and they should not be marginalized.

well known?? awww im blushing:) but thats funny that you cant even comment on my comment about you judging without judging me. do you smell like hypocrisy?? and YOU are calling gfan a stalker?? funny cuz when you were all about judging me an sayin my kids were on badger care and that youve prolly fostered them BECAUSE i smoke pot...i got an anonymous email warning of your potential and not to get on yo bad side...because of potential REAL life stalking. yikes.

Uh, I'd like to see this.... this is libel... never did such a thing. And I am a very ACTIVE proponent of healthcare for all children. It's just that I have less respect for people who, when on limitied resources, choose to spend money on drugs and let other people take up the slack.
But pot lets you forget that. Banyan, thekid doesn't have glaucoma or bone cancer. He's just a lazy blob in denial.

banyan says:
You can sing the praises of Rock County/Janesville CPS and their amazing speakers, but I’ve been through that system and my opinion, and the opinion of my four siblings – MAJOR FAIL. I

ARE YOU KIDDING? I am one of the most ACTIVE advocates AGAINST Child protective services' current legal processes. This is not a CPS speaker, this is a nationwide revered child psychologist speaking on how to PREVENT further trauma to a child ripped from its family and put in a foster home.

Yeesh. Join CASA or something, be useful. And I read that book ages ago. Nothing groundbreaking, but informative. I find the actual behavioral neuroscience research much more promising. That, and exposing the sick workings of CPS from the inside out.

lol - ironically, also used to treat glaucoma. *not effective when applied topically to the eyeball

E-wife, I'm wondering what sort of credentials you have to talk to me like I am out of touch with reality? Do you work for CPS? Do you have some training or some articles to back your point?

My point (and it wasn't directed at you specifically) is that this option is open to ANYONE that needs it. That people implying it would be used only by rape or incest victims presents a stigma to other girls that may have the need to use it.

Be open minded! Don't always assume the worse in everybody.

banyan: bad news tho man...the blind cant see the logic you type;)

Curtaincall – did you read the other posts before calling us names? Obviously not or, you would have seen that we originally started out talking about this story, but got side tracked by judgmental people like you.

So let me say, again, that advocating the medical use of marijuana does not make people stoners, or even pot smokers. You, like e-wife, just called every person living in states on the Pacific Coast 'a pot smoker,' because all three states have medical marijuana laws, along with 11 other states. And several other states just introduced legislation to make it legal. Are the people who work at USA Today also pot heads because they published the story about the impending legislation? I advocate using natural substances to help people instead of lab created pills with potentially debilitating side effects. How, again, does that make me a stoner? Judgmental much?

:o shocked!

Why would someone say that? As if drug use has any affect on employability... And like having Badger Care makes you a bad parent?? Right, having health insurance is generally frowned upon in the parenting community! That program is a failsafe, designed to keep people who have hit a rough spot, and their kids, healthy. I know many, many people who have needed government assistance during their lifetime (duh - that's why we pay taxes), especially in the current economy. That doesn’t make them slackers or bad parents whose kids are in foster care. Man, what a horrible thing to say to someone. Yet another reason I left the Midwest, too much closed-mindedness. Sad.

Ironically, it's probably this type of judgment that leads many young, unwed mothers to abandon their babies. They don't want to be judged for being on welfare, and they can't care for the baby if they're not. I'm sure there are other reasons too, but why the stigma? So they need a little help - what's the problem?

tj24- i agree with you. 72 hours doesn't seem to be enough time. You may still be in the hospital. I also wonder about the father- he will never know. I also agree the name and some info should be taken for medical reasons.

What a terrible decision to make.
Those who toss the babies in the trash should go to jail for life- you killed somebody .

I do understand you kill somebody with abortion too and believe you have the choice to do this. I just wish they wouldn't and would do what this girl did instead.

Do you think that all you pot smoking , stalkers could get back to the article subject. OMG. Congrats to this brave lady. You did a excellent thing.

That's right thekid, a blogger on this website said e-wife was seen stalking someone in e-ville. I defended e-wife back then saying: E-ville is a small town and maybe driving past someone's house repeatedly was just a coincidence.

But apparently I was wrong. What's obviously going here is: e-wife's own obsession is backing up on her.

pat, at no time did I say that 20 yr old records are accurate. I said that there often is enough in those records for you to seek the information you want, which would be a up to date medical history. My statements were not misleading you are reading into them what you want. All I am trying to say is that adoptees can get medical information in many instances. My brother, also adopted from a different family has also been easily able to get up to date medical info. Every adoptee's situation is different. You seem to have very strong feelings, my post is not about emotion or feelings but fact as events in my life have laid out. I did not initially get my information from my birth parents themselves but my maternal grandmother whom I found and spoke with as my birth mother did not want a relationship at that time. She also told me who my father is and he and I have a wonderful relationship now. And since he had his 1st heart attack at 51 and a large family history of death from heart disease I am now able to watch more closely my health as I am now at risk and also have the same disease that recently killed my maternal grandmother.

Yeah I think what she did was right, I mean the baby wasn't harmed and is so young that he won't know.

It's just sad that she didn't want him

And e-wife is under the delusion that I made the claim that I've read every one of her posts! Nuts! There's only one area nut job that I have some interest in and it's not e-wife.

Thanks, banyan. e-wife is obsessed with sadness and isolation and stalking -such obsessions being the symptoms of psychosis. I made reference to her maybe three or four times in almost two years -and not all were negative.

She's crabby from having only horses where something else should be once-in-a-while.

well known?? awww im blushing:) but thats funny that you cant even comment on my comment about you judging without judging me. do you smell like hypocrisy?? and YOU are calling gfan a stalker?? funny cuz when you were all about judging me an sayin my kids were on badger care and that youve prolly fostered them BECAUSE i smoke pot...i got an anonymous email warning of your potential and not to get on yo bad side...because of potential REAL life stalking. yikes.

the right decision was made and this childs life was saved,she will feel good that her baby will be taken care and hopefully she will be ok with her decision.

Pot advocate does not a stoner make. Possibly you're familiar with medical marijuana laws in many forward thinking states? Gazettefan, not a stalker, don’t flatter yourself. He just took advantage of the 'see all posts by this person' feature on this website.

Yes, the Harlows' (his AND her) studies are now obsolete and were thought to be garish, even when conducted, but gave amazing understanding and insight into attachment. No, they weren't popular, hence the bombing of their facility, but they started the trend to look into attachment and its importance in infant development. Sure trauma - yup, not a surprise that would be an issue, but attachment is the advantage that makes early placement preferable. That's what this posting has been talking about: earlier vs. later placement.

Based on your earlier posts, you appear to have experience with social work; you would probably really enjoy the book I mentioned earlier. It is expensive as I believe it technically qualifies as a textbook, but if you can get it from a library, it is worth the read.

You can sing the praises of Rock County/Janesville CPS and their amazing speakers, but I’ve been through that system and my opinion, and the opinion of my four siblings – MAJOR FAIL. I do agree with you about Crafty though - fewer options have historically proven better, no? sheesh

IT'S to bad crafty had to go there. Like I tell my kids you can think it all you like, but you have to know when to keep those thoughts to yourself.

Sorry Janesville girl not only is your statement wrong, but misleading. Privacy laws yes, the rest bull. People's medical info changes through the years. Example, my original health records at the time I was adopted, listed no history of heart and diabetes. My birth mother developed both of these problems in her forties. NOT something she knew when I was born and she was 19.. There was NO family history of diabetes. That anyone had record of , but she developed it. So family history does not guarantee what will happen to people in life in terms of medical issues. Don't just take it for granted that your twenty year old info is good..... twenty years later. OR should I say do not take that chance.. Like I said your statements are so misleading.

crafty, SHUT UP !

Crafty- I have yet to see a mother imprisoned for having an abortion, yet have heard plenty of women sentenced for killing newborns. So how is that the same? if abortion is murder, then isn't every woman who has a miscarriage suspect? After all, how do we KNOW she didn;t do something to herself to blight the fetus?? Let's investigate all miscarriages/stillbirths, so they can be punished as Crafty sees fit!

banyan, thekid is a well-known pot advocate, hence the reference. G-fan is a weird stalker that claims o have read 'every single one" of my posts and has some weird obsession.
The Harlow studies- I've worked at Goon Park and those studies are absolute caca compared to what we know about infant/maternal bonding now. Harlow may be famous, but his research is not well-revered. Dr Berry is an excellent source, he recently came and talked to CPS and foster parents about the permanent neurological effects of trauma on infants.
It is not attachment so much as trauma; if a child is raised in a daycare, it often has over 4-5 caretakers including the parents.However, the mitigating factor has been proven to be the quality of care, not the number of caretakers.
That said, I agree, this law is an excellent safe law for desperate mothers. The only loophole is, any rapist or incestuous relative can then claim the child if the mother is out of the picture to provide testimony.
Let's just hope in this case the baby goes to a family who desperately cherishes this baby.

wow, sNaP! Housewife, anyone who doesn't agree with you is a reclusive junky? Shoot, pass the hookah chief...

Unfortunately, all long-term studies show that insecure attachment in infants can, and usually does, lead to lifelong problems. Yes, some children are able to find secure attachment later in life (as is the case with some older adoptions), but that's the exception, not the rule. “Child Development, a Practitioner’s Guide,” by Douglas Davies, is an insightful book with several chapters, and some case studies, devoted to the importance of attachment. I believe it even sites the Harlow studies done at UW Madison for some of the early material.

This law is designed to give people options, and it appears to work well for all involved. The small inconvenience of not having access to full medical records should not over shadow the fact that for some of these infants, the other choice could lead to their death, as it has on many other occasions. Really, would you rather have life, or access to full medical records? I think I know where the infant stands on that issue. The wording of the law could be changed to allow older children to also be left safely, however, this did not have the desired effect in one of the Plain states (North Dakota? maybe, Wyoming?) when people started dropping off their teen-agers. Fortunately, the law worked exactly as intended in this situation: the mother gets anonymity, which is what many people who abandon an infant are seeking, and the child gets a safe, healthy start.

Kudos to the mama in this situation; Good luck to the little fella; and CONGRATS to a family who has been waiting, wanting and preparing for a new addition to their family - today's your lucky day!

pat- you cannot get current medical records for ANYONE due to privacy acts. However, you can get enough information from your original records to find health trends in your biological family if they were honest in their filing. My records gave me enough information that I was able to find family members and get the information that I needed, which has helped in my medical situation. Also many of my biological family members were already dead when I found the information, died young of preventable disease, good to know. I never said it was simple, use the information you can get and do the work yourself, as you seem to have done. Whether you are adopted or not you must have permission to get someone's medical records. As for foriegn adoption, thats a whole other ballgame, my good friend was adopted from Korea, she was left on the door step of a police station due to adoption being illegal there in the 70's, she will never get any info.

Kudos to this mother for caring enough not to get an abortion, which is the same thing as murdering it yourself.

I think it was a good idea to publish this article. There may be woman out there that did not know Wisconsin has a Safe Harbor Law and it could make a difference in some other new born's life. No one should judge the mother who left her baby at the Police station. What a hard decision to make and she made the most unselfish one ever. To say she shouldn't have conceived the child in the first place - all pregnancies aren't planned and this child was conceived and born for a reason, even if none of us ever know what the reason is.

I was also adopted at a young age and the only mother and father I know are the ones I have now.
I know it was a difficult decision for my birthmother to have to give me up but she didn't have the means to take care of me. So I commend her for her choice as I do the woman who left the baby at the police dept.!

Sadly,tj, you would not believe the number of teenagers in Rock county that are/were pregnant by relatives or their mother's boyfriends. To deny their existence is sticking your head in the sand.
I never made it sound like only rape victims were the ones to choose adoption for their babies. have you forgotten the mother who dropped her boyfriend's baby in the toilet and then went into prom? Or that local 17 year old couple who dumped thier newborn in a port a john and left it there?

What a strong mother to make the best choice for her child.

I do wonder though, at 72 hours post-partum, is anyone able to make a good logical choice about their baby? I know the law was written to prevent babies from being dumped off somewhere but it seems a bit longer time frame would be better suited. What about the mother's that try it for a week or two or more and can't do it. Why aren't we helping them?

I hope the baby is placed well and loved.

Also, do you really think there are a whole bunch of pregnant women walking around that were raped or victims of incest? Obviously people make mistakes. Some get pregnant when they don't want to be or can't care for a baby. Just let it be that they have the right to leave their baby somewhere safely instead of trying to make it seem like the only people that would abandon their baby are those that were raped or victims. Plenty of teens would have a hard time telling their folks they were pregnant. Heck some college kids would too! So stop making everything about incest and rape! good grief...

Sarahb1-
Darn right it's offensive. I know quite a few children (some now adults) where the adopted child was able to maintain a loving relationship with the birth parents AND have a fulfilling, safe life being raised by adoptive parents.
Open adoption is a fabulous thing, it's given many children and families a wonderful, safe, permanent loving option.
It's one of CPS's great failings to try to mold children into little beings that are programmable to forget their biological families and where they came from. They would love to believe that TPR happens, there is a "transition period" and all is well and good. Sadly, the pain usually surfaces in the teenage years...

gazettefan- it won't make sense to someone as sad and isolated as yourself. The kid, were you able to type that with your loint hanging out of your mouth or did you have to pause and take a bong hit first?

Pat I agree with your posts. I have 2 adopted children and they both bonded with my husband and myself we have very close relationships with our children. Also with adoption records it depends on if they are domestic adoptions or foreign adoptions. With foreign adoptions there is no way you are going to get any medical information, most of the time it is all destroyed after the child is adopted.

When I talk about current medical records. I wanted to know did anyone develop cancer later in life? Diabetes, which yes they did, Heart problems.. These are all things that may have not been known at the time of the adoption.

Sorry Janesvillegirl72, you are wrong. YOU CAN NOT get up to date medical records from birth parents without them giving permission, and for them giving current info. You may have gotten health information about your birth parents from 20 years ago, but what good does that do anyone. I sought out my birth mom as well,, first in current medical records and then we talked on the phone and then met. The other problem is alot of times, the adopting agency can NOT find the birth parents after the adoption, so there is no way to get current medical information. If the birth parent does not want to cooperate with giving current medical info, they don't have to. THEY can give current medical info without ever having contact with anyone but the agency. It is NOT as simple as writing to a agency.

pat-I was adopted as an infant and was able to get all of my history by writing to the courthouse with a request which led me to find my birth parents and found a great deal of health information that was very important to my current health. Adoptees do have rights in normal cases of adoption, however this baby will probably never have the opportunity to find out any health background

what a great mom ! even if she was only one for a short time. she did what she had to do and i think that is wonderful. this baby was given a chance to have a happy life and i hope the foster family takes excellent care of him. this is the hardest thing anyone can do and just thinking about it makes me hurt all over.

I commend this woman for what she did. She didn't murder the child before birth or after and did the right thing by giving it up for adoption. Someone who desires a baby is going to be so blessed and the child got the right to live. Thank You!!!!

funny gfan:) housewife like youve never made a judgemental statement.

adoption laws do need to changed. It needs to be easier for a adopted person to get current medical history. But then again you can't make anyone do anything.

I also think this mother had done a good thing. The only thing I'm not sure about is what about the father? I'm hoping he was behind her on this and if not could he have wanted the child? and the one thing that most concerns me if they don't ask the mother for any info about her or the father, then what happens when the child becomes ill and they to know medical info of family members? what's happens then? I do think it is a great idea, but can't they still get some kind of info from the mother before she walks out the door with no strings attached?

I think this is a great story. I'm tired of reading about all of the horrible things happening lately, so thank whomever for a positive story.

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Thank you to the mother as well.

I just want to give my support to the birth mother for doing the responsible thing and giving this baby a chance at life. She did the best thing she could for this child. I truly hope she recovers well and that the baby goes on to have a blessed life.

This was a brave and thoughtful act from the birth mother. Whatever the circumstances that may have created the pregnancy the mother should be commended for making a choice to give her baby a brighter future. It looks like the department is looking to place the child quickly into a foster home looking to adopt. Early adoption, and I think three years is still early, does provide a better sense of bonding and stability for the child. Some of my friends have adopted at 7 and 10 and those children do have a harder time adjusting, and more longlasting difficulties.

what a good story. This child will be safe,and looked after. Congratulations to the mother for doing the right thing.Instead of keeping,and possibly harming this child,she allows this child to have a life.Wish ALL "unwanted" pregancies ended this well.

Sorry folks I was adopted as a three year old, and before that foster care. I don't remember any of it and the person I bonded with is my adoptive mother. So baloney to not adjusting or feeling secure and bonding. What a load of crap. This baby is going to love whom ever cares for and loves him. Even if it is more than one person. This woman is very brave, and deserves great praise for doing this. There is no doubt this baby will be adopted quickly and spend little time in foster care. Unless its the foster parents who adopt. I think that more than likely this woman had thought about adoption for her baby before he was even born. That would not have surprise me at all. I am so grateful to her for going through with the pregnancy and keeping the baby safe. Adoption has to become more of a option for more people. It's a gift. I will add that I hold no resentment towards my birth mother, and I actually sought her out,originally for health records, but then I took the step to meet her. I am so glad I did. She was a wonderful woman, she passed away this last summer.

Klyve obviously knows that the majority of children who are in foster care or are adopted following a TPR have serious adjustment issues. Despite the best of intentions they have a frighteningly high rate of criminal activity as juveniles and adults. When a child is adopted as an infant, however, they are much more likely to grow up well-adjusted and even happy. So this mother did do the right thing.
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When you consider the circumstances that often lead someone to conceal a pregnancy (rape, incest, etc.) you can see that finding the strength to do the right thing when the time comes is like grabbing for the brass ring on a carousel.

SARAH --- I don't find that statement to be offensive at all. I understand what you are trying to say, but stepping back from emotion, the point of the comment was that a child will feel bonded and feel secure, not unstable and bounced around. There will always be a spiritual connection between mother and child, but through development, stability is in the best interest of the child, and with time, the child will come to identify the spiritual connection on their own accord.

I am so happy this mother did this, and a new mommy can enjoy the milestones of this little peanut with much love and admiration! Too often people have children and raise them without having a clue~ Just recently I have been asked to take in children of a family member because they aren't able to care for them properly. Unfortunately I can't, and that breaks my heart, but I am very proud of the father for at least trying (the mother is living on the streets) and admitting that he needs help, and is seeking it, both mentally and for parenting. And these little ones will be with a very loving family until he gets it together, and I pray that he does! Too many parents don't admit that how they are raising (if that's what you want to call it) their children is in some cases worse than death itself.

Wow to you evansvillewife. It may have been misread. It is not meant to be a judgemental statement, nobody knows how the child was conceived. If it was conceived in love, would a parent not prepare and love the child? Would the parent give it up like this?

I prayers go out, including to you for taking it out to a different degree than what it was meant to be.

evansvillehousewife, is your post supposed to make sense?!!!

Quote from Charmian Klyve, Rock County Human Services director: "It's great when you can make that type of a match so early in a child's life so they know no other parent than the one that's been caring from them." ... Is it just me or does anyone else find this offensive to the birth mother who made the right decision to care enough to give up the child?

yes, pull your head out of your butt. what a horrible thing to write. I, too commend the woman for doing a very difficult thing.

robinvioleth-Every baby isn't neccessarily the case of someone who was WILLING to spread their legs....some people are victims of rape and incest. PULL IT OUT.

Interesting that the cases have been concentrated here. Obviously the word about the law is not getting out in other places.

As odd as it seems, I don;t place blame on the mother of Baby Theresa. I have seen way too many horrific cases of abuse and incest- for all we know there is a poor 14 year old, unable to get any help, and her relative did this to her and the baby.
Mental illness is often another reason to relinquish- this mother may have had a postnatal breakdown (otherwise known as postpartum psychosis) and been unable to deal with the newborn. Or she may have been raped, or been on drugs.

What really troubles me is the statement "she maybe did not do the right thing to concieve the child" WHAT A JUDGEMENTAL, PIOUS statement! Who are you to know that the baby was not conceived in love, in a marriage, or in a rape? NEWS FLASH: Women having sex is NO LONGER A CRIME. Get with it.

I don't think there is any shame in this I feel for once the Gazette did the right thing and there letting people know that this option is available and especially in light of Baby Theresa. I think the mother that did what she did to Baby Theresa is a shame!!

kty1309, where was there shame? This mother, who may not have done the right thing to conceive the child, did do the right thing in giving up the child because, somehow, she knew she could not give it a good life.

This type of story is a good human interest story. Who knows, there may be hundreds of others reading this that needed to hear it and to know that there is an option to do what is right by the child.

There are too many people that keep their child(ren) when they cannot, or will not, provide them a life the child deserves.

Kudos to this mother because she knew what was best for the child.

A baby's life saved from conception on through to a loving home. Great story.

she did do the right thing and not harm the baby, to many people do not do this and it ends badly

I don't think this article is placing shame on anyone. Now if they had published this ladies name that would be wrong. There is no shame. She did the right thing. Why would the word shame even come up?

I'm sure it was the hardest decision she ever has to make, but she was thinking of that baby. Bless her for not being selfish, and doing the right thing for the child! You are in my families thoughts and prayers!

i give many thanks to the mother for doing this...it takes alot for a birth mother to give a baby up like that but it shows that your trying to do the right thing for this little baby...and to give the baby the chance at a life that these parents couldnt give it...my heart and blessings go out to all involved in this situation...

I think that this story should not have been published. If a person does what they are supposed to do and the outcome is what is should be, why place any shame on the mother by publishing this! To the mother, thank you for loving your child enough to do the right thing!!!

What a brave, brave woman. It is so good to see someone doing the right thing. To many stories in the news of people throwing babies out like they are garbage, or harming them in other ways. It takes a very brave selfless person to do this.