Crash has 'left such a hole'
Their hometown of Fort Atkinson was devastated by the loss of the father and son Saturday after a man accused of drunken driving smashed into their car while they were on their way to a Milwaukee Bucks game. They died at the scene.
They were using tickets Bailey had received for Christmas.
After Bailey, 11, finished playing his third basketball game Saturday afternoon, he and his father hurried home before leaving for the Bradley Center, bringing a camera and binoculars.
Eleno J. "Alan" Calvillo, 41, had driven about two miles from his home and was traveling east on state Highway 106 when the Toyota Corolla he and his son were riding in was struck head-on by a pickup truck driven by Lucas L. White, 22, of Fort Atkinson.
White, who had been fishing earlier in the day, told investigators he had drunk about seven beers since noon and smoked marijuana before slamming into the Calvillos' car about 6:15 p.m. White—who registered a blood-alcohol level of 0.23 in a breath test and told investigators he was "pacing himself" while drinking, according to a criminal complaint—suffered minor injuries.
The pain the Calvillos' deaths have inflicted—on Wendy Calvillo, Alan's wife and Bailey's mother; on Bailey's three younger siblings; on Bailey's classmates and teammates, and on the Calvillos' extended family and neighbors and co-workers—is indescribable, said Wendy's sister, Debbie Wermeling.
"I wish there was a bigger, badder word for devastated so you could understand," Wermeling said, struggling to speak through her sobs.
Alan and Wendy Calvillo had cried when he was offered a promotion at work a few years ago, knowing they needed the extra money but worried because Alan would be working second shift, meaning he would barely see his children during the week.
But Alan and Wendy made it work, Wermeling said. Alan started his shift as a supervisor at Spacesaver Corp. in Fort Atkinson about 1:30 p.m., so Wendy worked from about 8 a.m. to noon so their youngest son, Brogan, wouldn't have to go to day care.
Alan came home every night about 6 p.m. to have dinner with his family and even found time to coach Bailey's baseball team over the summer, Wermeling said.
"They don't have a fancy house and they don't have fancy cars, but they made beautiful kids together and that's what they worked for and that's what they lived for," Wermeling said.
Alan and Wendy, who were married nearly 18 years, raised a wonderful child in Bailey, said his basketball coach, Dan Roloff.
"Alan and Bailey, they've touched a lot of lives," Roloff said. "It's amazing in a small town how many people have been affected by Bailey and his smile, and how much he will be missed. I think everyone who was in contact with him is a better person because of it. He truly was just a wonderful kid."
Bailey, a sixth-grader, played baseball and basketball and ran cross-country. He rooted for the Brewers and Bucks and idolized NBA star Dwyane Wade, and he earned high honors each of the first two quarters this year at St. Joseph Catholic School, said Wermeling, who works as the school's secretary.
Bailey and a cousin shared their sixth-grade classroom with 12 other students, Wermeling said.
Bailey's 8-year-old brother, Braedan, is in second grade at the school, and his 6-year-old sister, Ellie, is a first-grader.
"It's left such a hole," principal David Podmolik said.
Explaining the situation to students has been difficult, Podmolik said.
"This is the most difficult thing to make sense out of, because Bailey had absolutely no choice in this situation, nor did his dad," he said.
The parish's church will host the Calvillos' wake today and their funeral Thursday.
Bailey was a starter this year on the school's fifth- and sixth-grade basketball team, Roloff said. Bailey worked hard on defense, listened to his coaches and had come a long way, his coach said.
"He went from a fifth-grader that struggled to dribble at all with his left hand, to now, on Saturday, he made three left-handed layups with defense in his face," Roloff said. "There's nothing better than to see him running down the court with a big ol' smile on his face, high-fiving his teammates."
Bailey's teammates from his school basketball team will don their uniforms and follow his casket up the church's aisle at his funeral, Wermeling said.
The day after the crash, Wendy Calvillo and Wermeling went to the spot where Bailey and Alan died. They got on their hands and knees and searched for evidence of the horror that happened there, Wermeling said.
"We found their garage door opener and a pair of safety glasses that Alan wore to work," she said. "We found a piece of their car, just a little piece, but it's their car."
They also found smashed beer bottles, Wermeling said.
"You know what we thought while we were crawling around on our hands and knees?" she said. " '(White) got to crawl out of his truck.'
"I don't care if he goes to prison for the rest of his life," she said. "His parents will still get to see him. His friends will still get to see him."
White, who was charged Monday with two counts of homicide by intoxicated use of a vehicle, faces up to 30 years' imprisonment and 20 years' extended supervision if convicted of both charges.
His public defender, John V. Rhiel, said Monday that White works as an industrial welder and has no criminal record as an adult. Rhiel said White is "very somber about this. He takes it very seriously… . It's a very sad situation all around."
White was being held Tuesday night in the Jefferson County Jail on $150,000 bail.
Alan Calvillo drank a beer or two a year, Wermeling said. Wendy never drinks, her sister said.
"(Alan) didn't go out with his friends," Wermeling said. "He wanted to do stuff with his kids… . Every once in a while (Alan and Wendy) would get to sneak out, the two of them, and you know what they would do? They would go shopping for those kids, or they would get dinner and go right home because they wanted to tuck their kids into bed."
Bailey's mother has been searching for any tangible reminders of her son and husband, Wermeling said.
She found Bailey's wallet in his room, photos of his siblings inside. She has been wearing Alan's fleece and sleeping with Bailey's unwashed basketball shorts, the shorts he wore Saturday.
Sheriff's deputies returned the binoculars and a smashed digital camera they found at the crash scene, Wermeling said. The camera contained photos Alan took of Bailey during his basketball games earlier in the day, she said. The photos have since been printed.
Alan constantly shot photos and videos of his family, Wermeling said.
Podmolik, the school's principal, laughed at the memory of watching Alan film from the back of the church a few weeks ago while his son Braedan prepared to make his first confession.
"That's the snapshot I have of him, always trying to commemorate or be a part of his kids' lives," Podmolik said.
Roloff, Bailey's basketball coach, said he would remember Bailey for his smile.
"When I think of him, I think of him with that big ol' smile, jumping around after a good play, whether it was by him or his teammates," Roloff said. "That smile, I'll never forget that smile."
Last updated: 9:40 am Thursday, December 13, 2012