Many teenagers and youths are affected from behavioral disorder and emotional problems as the above problem discussed. This is a serious question why teenagers loss their temperament and become aggressive. Some times due to the uncontrollable circumstances kids become under pressure and adopt negative qualities. Therapeutic treatments and psychotherapy programs such as behavioral development training, cognitive therapies, motivational training and extended care help unmotivated adolescents to achieve high self esteem, confidence and improved behavior.
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Pretty presumptous to say this kid just "needs a hug." Perhaps he needs a substitution for the slap on the hand he's been getting around here in the justice system...time to give parents their parental rights back to discipline their own children. Children are not afraid to be disciplined anymore by their parents because it is drilled in to their heads that its inappropriate and they should call the police on their own parental figures.

i agree with you 100 percent about oleary an kopp,i feel terrible you had such a bad childhood,this must have been awful for you.an youre right,they make you feel even worse,my kids felt like useless beings all the time.im glad your kids are doing great,an i hope as the time has passed,you and your husband feel better about yourselves,you have seem to come along way.good luck to you in your lives,an im very glad you turned out to be the people you are,that is good parents.

I had a very long rap sheet when I was a kid. The staff at the detention center knew me very well. My husband was also a "juvenile deliquent" and I have to say our 3 children are doing GREAT! We BOTH came from extremely abusive/neglectful homes. When I would get in trouble nobody EVER looked beyond the problem and looked at my mother. She still to this day is 50 years old and smokes pot everyday. She was a foster mother and was able to adopt a child(who I will add already came from an abusive home!). I have as an adult confronted officers, probation agents, etc who did nothing for me as a child and told them maybe they need to look BEYOND the words of the parents of troubled teens! My husband and I came together and vowed to give our children the best we can and learn from our parents mistakes. A child problem is not just a child problem, it is ALWAYS a FAMILY problem!!! If a child is running away it is VERY possible something is going on at home! When I ran away it was usually because my mother had cornered me and was in my face telling me "it's no wonder nobody wants you around", or I caught her smoking pot and she was trying to convince me I was crazy and just out to "ruin her"! It doesn't take rocket science to figure out throwing abused kids in jail will only create MORE anger, LESS trust for authority, and MORE feelings of worthlessness!!!! I suggest OLeary and Kopp take put their great educations aside and use some COMMON SENSE!!!!!

lol,justaskme,im sorry i didnt mean for it to be so longwinded,ill try to keep my post a little shorter,your right it was rather long.

I nominate melstew47 for the long-winded-est comment ever. ;-)

this is to those parents who have those perfect children who never got into trouble,listen up hollynfaith an the rest of you parents of the year,who think they know it all and have all the answers,im the mother of two children,who continually got into trouble when they were younger(both are adults now)i was a good parent,an,so was my husband,we took responsibilty for the actions of our kids,i took them to work with me when times were bad, i didnt pawn them off on a babysitter or child care services,or family members,because it wasnt anyones responsibility to watch my kids when they were being brats,it was ours as their parents.i tried all the recommendations the schools offered,an the councelors an anyone else who thought it was their business,i was open for any suggestions.my daughter is 17 now,an hasnt been in any trouble since i took her out of the public school system,an i did that when she was 14.my son wasnt so lucky,they started arresting for the smallest things,there plan was just to get rid of him an that they did.do i blame anyone for where my son is today?no,we tried as parents he refused to conform to societies rules,we done everything as alot of parents do.my son managed to rack up 19 disorderly conducts in a months time,which i found a little excessive for a 12 year old,hes 19 now,and at his last stop before he comes home,which hes managed to really turn his life around,when he gets home,they will start watching him like a hawk again,they will try to set him up for failure,like they do so many other kids,at one point these kids dont see any light at the end of the tunnel.my daughter stays completely to herself,she does her school work,an has a very limited social life,which she finds the safest way to stay out of the court systems way.once these kids get into the system,they never leave them alone.for those of you who continually blame the parents,you need to stop,because there are parents out there who really do try,and if you want to give advice on parenting and offer suggestions on how to raise children,there are support groups who would gladly appreciate some of your time,to help some of these kids with their life choices,an,parents who cant control their kids might need some of your help.as far as me punching my mother in the mouth,i wouldnt have woke up for a week either(lol).one more thing before i end this book ive written,i think maybe society needs to back off parents who try to control their children,an,let them do so,when social workers,teachers,an every other busy body is telling a child,that they can call the cops on their parents,the parent lost control right at that time,theres a difference between abuse and discipline.good luck to you all that have kids who get into trouble,an to those of you who dont take any responsiblity for what your child does,you shouldnt have them,someone who cares should

This story makes me sad. Seems the boy just needs some love and attention. My two boys 17 and 20 still give kisses (on the head now ) and many times dailey we tell each other "I love you." Words I bet this boy has not heard in a long time. HUGS go out to this child.

As a mother of four boys, I agree parenting is where the problem is. My children have never been in trouble with the law. As a society, we have taken a generation of children and took away their boundries, gave them little or no consequence and then expect them to have a conscience about the wrong they choose to do? It's absurd. Wake up people. When they say, it takes a village....IT TAKES A VILLAGE! We are passing all these laws that don't seem to matter, how about a parenting law? And make it so that you can't leave the hospital with that child until you've passed a class? And when your child is being arrested for their umteenth time, how about holding the parent responsible for the lack of parental supervision of a minor? I'm fed up with this. These kids are our future. I can't count how many times I've had to tell someone to put a jacket/hat and mittens on a baby when it's 30 degrees outside. Some consider that rude...I consider the health and well being of that baby before I'd consider ignoring the fact that the parent has no clue. And the parents in the grocery stores who are screaming at their children because they are bored...bring them something to do in a diaper bag and everyone is happy and you won't have to yell. When they are older, listen to them and their interests/problems. Get to know their friends. Guide them towards their goals and most importantly love them. Then...you won't be getting those calls from the police at all hours of the night. And for everyone else, when you see a child doing something wrong, for Pete's sake, say something to that child in a positive manner if the parent won't. It does have an impact and it will make a difference.

If some parents would get off thier dead behinds and deal with these kids we wouldn't have the problem we have today. They say I can't handle them well send them to my house for a month and you will see a different kid come back. What is the matter with parents today that they are afraid to tell these kids NO. Afraid to hurt thier little feelings. If I spoke to either one on my parents like the kids do today I would not wake up until the following week. We had respect for them. the kids now have none because they have been told, you parents can't do anything about you being the way you are because it's the law. If one on mine ever looked at me and said you can't touch me or I'm calling the police I would tell them , make the call now cause I'm fixin to put you back in line. Put these repeat offends into a program that offers a little hard labor and structure and see what they do. they will buck like a wild horse but will calm down and get with the program. I hear kids mouth off to thier parents all the time. I never played that game with my parents nor with my kids. Never laid a hand on them either. they just had respect.

I believe this is the kid who lives down the street from me. He has HADD and has stolen cars, caused over $40,000 in damage to houses, and has ridden in the backs of police cars. When we confronted his mother about criminal damage, she just said, "Go ahead and call the cops. I give up. I'm going back to bed". She told us she once saw him and a friend of his going out the door in the middle of the night with a couple of cartons of eggs. She told him he'd better not be getting into any trouble with those. What did she think- that they were going out to make omelets?!?!?!! And yes she is a single parent. The thing that really worries me is that he is the oldest of 4 boys.

I think one thing sums this story up. The criminal justice system is flawed and needs an overhaul. After hearing about the orders for Juvenile Probation officers to basically let these young offenders go, its no wonder there are problems. These kids need to be put in jail. No telephone, tv, etc. Lock them up for 30 days and say look, this is what you're headed for only instead of a month it could be life. Take them to a prison, show them what reality is. Have psych evaluations and complete physical done, how are they doing in school..what issues are concerns at school...what is the household like...yes it will cost money, but if the system does what it should, in the long run there will be less people in prisons and jail; which will save taxpayers a lot more money, than what it takes to keep a prisoner locked up, or continually dragging them into court.

I agree that parents need to begin as early as possible in teaching their children right from wrong. Make it clear to the child unacceptable behavior will not be tolerated and lay out the consequences. Set the rules, and consequences, stick to them, and continue to use them as the child gets older. Parents need to instill the fear of God in kids and it can be done without yelling, spanking, etc. my parents laid down the law, especially with me; my brothers had a little more flexibility; I didn't want to ruin my life by doing things that would or could have serious consequences.

If my brothers and I would have acted like kids do today, we would have gotten the belt and been grounded for life. We always knew we were in trouble if our dad got mad. And there was no doubt about it when he was mad, flames shot out his ears, as did many four letter words. The only time I ever heard my dad swear was when he was madder than the dickens.

Gee if I punched my mother when I was 13, I wouldnt remember anything until I woke in the hospital.

To JustAskMe. I agree with what you wrote regarding, “The role of parent(s) is very crucial during the early teenage years.” But may I add that the role of a parent begins even before birth and continues until we pass. JMO

The role of parent(s) is very crucial during the early teenage years.

Once a kid has a reputation the police (IMO) do watch and sometimes target that individual. Once they have a rep it is hard to overcome. yes getting the right help is important and to just jail and bail these kids does not solve the problem. They end up at 17 in the adult system and graduate to adult crimes the sad part is they are still young mentally and the big house makes them feels and act older then they are. Acceptance in any form is what some kids want whether good or bad. Reach out to these kids and show them a different way of life then what some of them have lived and maybe something will click and they will do better in the real world.jail is not a better way as some kids have lived in a locked world in more ways then we think. Alcohol/physcal and mental abuse/doing the same things as their parents, not seeing positive things in their lives and the list goes on. before you judge someone take a walk in their life and see what they see and learn what they have been taught.